Why Can't I Lose Weight?

Why? Why? Why am I not losing weight?

It's aggravating! It's infuriating! We try and we try every which way to Sunday to shed the extra poundage that's hiding our gorgeous, swimsuit-ready physique. We know it's in there. We know it's just dying to come out. If wishing made it so by gum by golly it would already be the reflection in our mirror.

It's a question way too many of us ask ourselves way too often!

Why on earth can't we figure this out? Why can't we find an answer to this question that helps us reach our goal?

Maybe, just maybe, we're asking ourselves the wrong question.

That particular question is fully loaded and ready to explode into a million reasons why we keep beating ourselves up. Just look at the words in that question. "Why can't I lose?" in and of itself is setting us up to continue our downward spiral into self-loathing. Then add the word "weight" into the equation and there's just no rising above it. Everything about that question is negative. There's just no way to answer that question in a way that will make you feel positive and motivated and inspired to take action.

What would happen if you asked yourself a different question entirely?

What if, instead of focusing on losing something you know you've failed at a million times already, you switch it up to something positive just for you?

This doesn't mean re-wording it to "I want to be healthy", "I want to have the energy to keep up with my kids", or "I want to live longer." Those are all simply different sides of the same coin.

This means taking the focus completely off anything that has to do with your body, your health, your kids or anything external of what's in your heart and soul.

What if you asked yourself, "What could I do that would make me happy and feel good about myself?" or "What could I do to live my very best life and to be my very best 'me'?"

When you start asking yourself those kinds of questions over and over again they start to take over your life. Those other kinds of questions, the kind that make you feel bad about yourself, fall by the wayside and you stop thinking about them entirely.

And once your focus changes to living a life filled with authentic happiness amazing things will start happening for you, both on the inside and the outside.

It's not an easy shift to make and it will take lots and lots of practice. Every single time you start to ask yourself a self-defeating, negative question, stop yourself and make a concerted effort to stop your "stinkin' thinkin".

What are some ways you can remind yourself every day to change up the questions you ask yourself?

* Leave yourself reminders in your planner, on your phone, or in your iPad. Short little positive blurbs to keep you moving forward.

* Enlist a friend's help. Ask them to send you an email or a text everyday asking "What are you doing today to live your very best life?"

* Instead of browsing through fashion magazines filled with pictures of air-brushed, 'perfect' women, pick up magazines that have a more inspirational and positive slant (like 'O' or 'More'). Or even better, look through magazines on the topic of whatever makes you happy: gardening, cooking, knitting, bicycling, traveling, astrology, science, philosophy, politics, the possibilities are endless.

* Set positive, smart goals for yourself. Write them down. Break them down into meaningful and manageable chunks that you can realistically meet within a day or two.

* Reward yourself with every little baby step you take in the right direction. Nothing big. It can be as simple as giving yourself an "Atta girl" or making a tally mark or smiley face on your calendar or planner. Anything that lets you know in your heart that 'you done good, sister!' (Yes, that sentence is grammatically incorrect but it feels really good to say it... give it a try!)

So, next time you catch yourself banging your head against the wall asking the same old question try throwing your psyche a curveball. Throw that old, tired question out the window and try something new!

And don't forget to reward yourself! You're worth it!

And you done good, sister!

Lisa Hoadley George is the founder of The Fuzzy Sock Society. The Fuzzy Sock Society's only mission is to empower others to live positive, happy, fun-filled lives. Visit http://www.fuzzysocksociety.com today to start living your very best life and to be your very best you! You're already pretty fantastic but there's no limit to how incredible you can be!

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